Three Reasons You Get Angry and How to Stop Them if You Choose to.

I am not an angry guy, but every now and then, that energy wells up in me.  Or I should say, tries to well up inside of me.

Let's face it, we create anger.  And we also have the ability to stop it. 

Should we stop it every time? Should we look to eradicate anger from our lives? Quite simply, no. However, we should be aware of our anger and on some level make it conscious, as opposed to reactive.

It's my belief that every energy has the ability to move us forward, including anger.  However, I find it least productive when it is the end result of careless thinking and expectation.

Think back to the last time you were angry.  Chances are good it was the result of one of these things:

  • Something didn't go the way you expected it to.
  • Someone acted in a way that went against how you felt they should
  • Someone did something that was in conflict with a belief that you hold in high regard.

You would think that for such a powerful energy as anger that there would be many more reasons, but this list of three covers it all.  

Here's the thing.  All three reasons are things you can change.

Don't have expectations.  Let things be as they will be, and change your experience to what actually happened, not what you wanted to happen.

Let people be who they are.  Let them do what they do.  Your way of living is only right for you. Ditch the ego part of you that tries to tell you that your way of living is the only way, that everyone should feel, think and believe the way you do.

Having beliefs is great.  Living by a code pf personal values adds meaning to our lives.  But the operative word is personal.  Your values are your values.  Live by them and let others live by theirs.  If there is ever a conflict, simply let others know what is important to you without devaluing what is important to them.  Be respectful of yourself and them.

In the end, you are the one responsible for feeling angry.  Empower it if it will serve you, or simply make a conscious decision not to react to the feelings once you notice them.

It is that easy.

You are powerful. You have the ability to respond in ways that serve you.  No one is in control of your emotions or life.

Now, go take on the day!



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