812: How to be Assertive and Not Aggressive

812: How to be Assertive and Not Aggressive

I have already discussed why many people have difficulty saying no.  One reason many people say yes instead of no is due to poor self esteem.  They feel that their needs are less important than those doing the asking.  Another reason is that they lack the ability to be assertive, to stick up for themselves.  Some people come across as angry and others let people walk all over them.  Today I am going to discuss how to be more assertive and the difference it is from aggressive and passive.

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810: How to Be Disagreeable: Facing the Fear of Confrontation

810: How to Be Disagreeable: Facing the Fear of Confrontation

The end game of this week is to help you become better able to say no.  It is one thing to be helpful and agreeable, but it's another to say yes to things when you really want to say no.  Yesterday I talked about being a people pleaser and steps to take to avoid that.  Today I am going to focus on the desire to avoid confrontation.  You won't want to miss this episode.

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809: Why You Don't Say "NO" and How to Start

Last week I sent out an email talking about the need to start saying "NO" more.  If you missed it then you'll want to join the ZENcommuter Daily Inspiration Email List.  I talked about how many times we find ourselves in a life we didn't choose because we simply agreed with what other people wanted for us. We didn't say no to choices that went against what we believed in.  A listener wrote me to say that she has challenges with saying no, so I assumed she was not alone. On today's episode I will talk about why people become people pleasers and how to stop

What you will learn in this episode

  • The two main reasons people are people pleasers
  • How being a people pleaser injures your health
  • 5 Ways to stop People Pleasing

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807: Self Care Intensive: Making Time for Your Emotional Health

807: Self Care Intensive: Making Time for Your Emotional Health

Taking care of your body and your mind is important, and even though it isn't a competition, the one aspect of your being that weighs the heaviest, is you emotional health.  It is about your ability to successfully embrace and express the myriad feelings we all possess.  Today I talk about 10 ways to practice self-care for your emotional health.

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806: Self Care Intensive: Taking Care of Your Body and Mind and Why You Should

806: Self Care Intensive: Taking Care of Your Body and Mind and Why You Should

Your body is a vessel; it holds all that you are.  Have you thought about that?  All that you will do for yourself and the world, is made possible because of your body.  That is a pretty huge responsibility.  The good news is your body doesn't need to do it alone.  You can help.  You have to help.  If you want to help anyone else, loved ones, friends or strangers, you need to start by taking care of your body.

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805: How to Take Care of Yourself During Challenging Times

805: How to Take Care of Yourself During Challenging Times

It seems we are perfect at taking care of ourselves when everything is going well.  If we are feeling upbeat or optimistic about ourselves and our lives then eating right and taking care of ourselves seems only natural.  We want the good feelings to continue.  However, in the times when things are not going so great, it's even more important to practice self-care.  Today I share an article that describes how.

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804: Preview of The Leap by Steven Taylor

804: Preview of The Leap by Steven Taylor

Travelers, I am very excited to be interviewing Steven Taylor later this month.  He is the author of several best-sellers that focus on spiritual awakening.  His latest book, The Leap: the psychology of Spiritual Awakening is out now and a definite must read.  I wanted to spend today reading a passage from his book, so that you can get a better understanding of his work.  It is exceptional, and I heartily encourage you to pick it up

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